My Favorite Host Gifts
Finding the right host gift is an art form. It’s about offering something thoughtful, useful, or beautiful — a small expression of gratitude that fits the moment. You can combine something meaningful (homemade, vintage, or personal) with something functional or luxe. That balance always feels right.
Bar & Cocktail Gifts
For the host who loves a well-stocked bar. These pieces look as good as they perform. Perfect for cocktail lovers, mocktail makers, or anyone who appreciates a well-poured drink
Crew Bottle
Fill it with a prebatched cocktail you made. Opens at both ends and comes with or without etched measurements. I use mine all the time.
Elevated Craft Shaker
My forever favorite. The lid never sticks, it’s insulated, and the top doubles as a measuring tool. Pair it with a nice bottle of booze.
Glassybabby Drinkers
Handblown glass, made in the USA. Each hand-crafted glassybaby gift can be sent with a complimentary hand-written note, so you can express the true care in your heart.
Ribbed Whiskey Glass
Partly about better grip, partly about light and beauty, and partly about nostalgic design language—ribbing is a small detail that makes the ritual of pouring a drink feel more refined.
Anything Vintage
A one-of-a-kind decanter, sword martini picks, or conversation-worthy jigger feels personal and special. Something collected, not bought. Simply search “vintage barware” on Etsy.
Dinner Party Gifts
I still believe one should never show up empty handed. And wile I’m all for a good bottle of wine or a bunch of flowers, those are what we grab when we’ve run out of time. Below are the kinds of gifts that feel considered. A little personal, a little elevated. And never last-minute.
Coffee Table Book
A beautiful, unexpected gift that feels indulgent. People rarely buy them for themselves. If you’re NYC local, shop the Strand consigned (online orders available too).
DreamFarm Supoon
The little tool you didn’t know you needed — it gets every last drop out of jars and doubles as a teaspoon measure. Pair it with one of the goodies listed below.
Coops Salted Caramel
Small-batch, rich, not overly sweet. I love giving it because it’s indulgent but unpretentious — spoon, drizzle, done.
Sichuan Chili Crisp
My pantry staple. I love this brand because it has no added sugar and makes anything better - from eggs to takeout. Great for hosts who love a spicy kick.
Anything Homemade
Frozen scones with a handwritten note, ready-to-bake cookie dough, and a paper-mâché pigeon are among the best host gifts I’ve ever received. Thoughtful beats fancy every time. Be uniquely you and bring your magic.
On the Lavish Side
When you need to bring just a little more than the “standard” gift. These are things most people love but never buy.
Tiffany Bamboo Vase
It somehow makes every bouquet look expensive. The perfect mix of polish and ease.
Christofle Espresso Spoon Set
The thing everyone comments on — a tiny showpiece that makes a simple coffee with friends feel special. People can’t help but obsess over it, and if they love coffee, it’s worth every penny.
L’Objet Bottle Opener
It’s the size of your palm and truly fabulous. A guarantee conversation starter.
Marshall Bluetooth Speaker
Old-school rock energy meets modern polish. Fills the room with sound and a little nostalgia without clashing with your décor.
The Overnight Host
I still believe one should never show up empty handed. And wile I’m all for a good bottle of wine or a bunch of flowers, those are what we grab when we’ve run out of time. Below are the kinds of gifts that feel considered. A little personal, a little elevated. And never last-minute.
Beach or Pool Hosts
Bright and bold Turkish towels. Bring a set at minimum.
The Whimsical Host
Yes, Glassybaby again. I’ve collected them for years — the way candlelight glows through the colored glass is magic. One makes a great gift; a trio in coordinating hues feels extra special.
The Stylish Host
The Jon Derian Tray is a piece that makes the simplest moments from setting down keys to serving dessert feel cared for and beautiful.
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I’m Melissa McNeeley
Award-winning New York City–based planner celebrated for creating weddings and events where elegance feels easy.
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